Thursday, May 29, 2014

Rules of Proper Etiquette Part 4 by George Washington

The next 10 Rules of Civility Presented by George Washington:

31st  If any one far Surpassess others, either in age, Estate, or Merit yet would give Place to a meander than himself in his own lodging or elsewhere the one ought not to except it, So he on the other part should not use much earnestness nor offer it above once or twice.

32d  To one that is your equal, or not much inferior you are to give the chief Place in your Lodging and he to who ‘tis offered ought at the first to refuse it but at the Second to accept though not without acknowledging his own unworthiness.

33d  They that are in Dignity or in office have in all places Preceedency but whilst they are Young they ought to respect those that are their equals in Birth or other Qualitys, though they have no Publick charge.

34th  It is good Manners to prefer them to whom we Speak before ourselves especially if they be above us with whom in no Sort we ought to begin.

35th  Let your Discourse with Men of Business be Short and Comprehensive.

36th  Artificers & Persons of low Degree ought not to use many ceremonies to Lords, or Others of high Degree but Respect and highly Honour them, and those of high Degree ought to treat them with affability & Courtesie, without Arrogancy

37th  In Speaking to men of Quality do not lean nor Look them full in the Face, nor approach too near them at lest Keep a full Pace from them

38th  In visiting the Sick, do not Presently play the Physician If you be not Knowing therein

39th  In writing or Speaking, give to every Person his due Title According to his Degree & the Custom of the Place.

40th  Undertake not to Teach your equal in the art himself Professes; it Savours of arrogancy

Wednesday, May 21, 2014

Rules of Proper Etiquette Part 3 by George Washington

Part 3 from the Rules of Proper Etiquette by George Washington continues:

21st Reproach none for the Infirmities of Nature, nor Delight to Put them that have in mind thereof.

22d Shew not yourself glad at the Misfortune of another though he were your enemy.

23d When you see a Crime punished, you may be inwardly Pleased; but always shew Pity to the Suffering Offender

24th Do not laugh too loud or too much at any Publick Spectacle.

25th Superfluous Complements and all Affectation of Ceremonie are to be avoided, yet where due they are not to be Neglected

26th In Pulling off your Hat to Persons of Distinction, as Noblemen, Justices, Churchmen &c make a Reverence, bowing more or less according to the Custom of the Better Bred, and Quality of the Person.  Amongst your equals expect not always that they Should begin with you first, but to Pull off the Hat when there is no need is Affectation, in the Manner of Saluting and resaluting in words keep to the most usual Custom

27th Tis ill manners to bid one more eminent than yourself be covered as well as not to do it to whom it’s due Likewise he that makes too much haste to Put on his hat does not well, yet he ought to Put it on at the first, or at most the Second time of being ask’d; now what is herein Spoken, of Qualification in behavior in Saluting, ought also to be observed in taking of Place, and Sitting down for ceremonies without Bounds is troublesome

28th If any one come to Speak to you while you are Sitting Stand up tho he be your Inferiour, and when you Present Seats let it be to every one according to his Degree

29th When you meet with one of Greater Quality than yourself, Stop, and retire especially if it be at a Door or any Straight place to give way for him to Pass

30th IN walking the highest Place in most Countrys Seems to be on the right hand therefore Place yourself on the left of whom you desire to Honour:  but if three walk together the mid Place is the most Honorouable the wall is usually given to the most worthy if two walk together

Wednesday, May 14, 2014

Rules of Proper Etiquette Part 2 by George Washington

Continuing this week with George Washington's "Rules of Civility & Decent Behaviour In Company and Conversation."  The following are the next 10 rules from Washington's personal book:

11th  Shift not yourself in the Sight of others nor Gnaw your nails

12th  Shake not the head, Feet, or Legs rowl not the Eys lift not one eyebrow higher than the other wry not the mouth, and bedew no mans face with your Spittle, by approaching too near him when you Speak

13th  Kill no Vermin as Fleas, lice ticks &c in the Sight of Others, if you See any filth or thick Spittle put your foot Dexteriously upon it if it be upon the Cloths of your Companions, Put it off privately, and if it be upon your own Cloths return Thanks to him who puts it off

14th  Turn not your Back to others especially in Speaking, Jog not the Table or Desk on which Another reads or writes, lean not upon any one

15th  Keep your Nails clean and Short, also your Hands and Teeth Clean yet without Shewing any great Concern for them

16th  Do not Puff up the Cheeks, Loll not out the tongue rub the Hands, or beard, thrust out the lips, or bite them or keep the Lips too open or too Close

17th  Be no Flatterer, neither Play with any that delights not to be Play'd Withal.

18th  Read no Letters, Books, or Papers in Company but when there is a Necessity for the doing of it you must ask leave:  come not near the Books or Writings of Another so as to read them unless desired or give your opinion of them unask'd also look not nigh when another is writing a Letter.

19th  let your Countenance be pleasant but in Serious Matters Somewhat grave.

20th  The Gestures of the Body must be Suited to the discourse you are upon.

Friday, May 9, 2014

Rules of Proper Etiquette Part 1 by George Washington

George Washington wrote his Rules of Civility and Decent Behaviour In Company and Conversation as a teenager.  110 rules became part of Washington’s list and helped with the development of America’s greatest Statesman.  The following is a list of the first 10 rules from Washington’s book:

 1st   Every Action done in Company, ought to be with Some Sign of Respect, to those that are Present

2d   When in Company, put not your Hands to any Part of the Body, not usually Discovered

3d   Shew Nothing to your Friend that may affright him

4   In the Presence of Others Sing not to yourself with a humming Noise, nor Drum with your Fingers or Feet

5th   If you Cough, Sneeze, Sigh, or Yawn, do it not Loud but Privately; and Speak not in your Yawning, but put Your handkerchief or Hand before your face and turn aside

6th   Sleep not when others Speak, Sit not when others stand, Speak not when you Should hold your Peace, walk not on when others Stop

7th   Put not off your Cloths in the presence of Others, nor go out your Chamber half Drest

8th   At Play and at Fire its Good manners to Give Place to the last Commer, and affect not to Speak Louder than Ordinary

9th   Spit not in the Fire, nor Stoop low before it neither Put your Hands into the Flames to warm them, nor Set your Feet upon the Fire especially if there be meat before it

10th   When you Sit down, Keep your Feet firm and Even, without putting one on the other or Crossing them